Can you sustain leaders and still think for yourself?

Yes. A ward teachers’ message printed it in 1945. Church President George Albert Smith rejected its implication in a private reply later that year.

You acknowledge both records. The magazine shows what members could read. The private reply shows how Smith understood the Church’s position.

It was never in scripture, so I would focus on what the Church teaches now.

Scripture helps answer what members should believe. Start by acknowledging that the line did appear in a Church publication and explain the response to it.

I try to apply the counsel I already agree with and wait on the rest.

Sincere reflection may take time. Taking counsel seriously can also mean examining an uncomfortable teaching before you reach a conclusion.

I take prophetic counsel seriously enough to examine my own assumptions. I still have to study what was said, seek understanding, and take responsibility for what I do.

You give prophetic counsel weight while recognizing the listener’s duty to understand and choose. Doctrine and Covenants gives believers both responsibilities.

I can explain my actual commitments and ask what help is needed. I might be able to help with a smaller part, or I may need to decline.

You make room for a real conversation. When extending a calling, the handbook asks leaders to discuss whether the member’s circumstances allow them to serve.

I’d accept it first and decide later whether I can manage the extra time.

That may reflect a willingness to serve, but sharing your constraints first gives you and the leader a better chance to agree on a commitment you can keep.